Tonight I received unfortunate news about my family. My sister-in-law cheated on my brother. Together they have a 6 year old boy and a 3 year old daughter, both whom I love as if they were my children. They've been together for 9 years but married for about 7 years. They married as teenagers because he got her pregnant. My brother is the sibling before so him and I grew up together and he's the closest sibling I am with while growing up. I was their niam txais ntsuab for their wedding.
From my perspective, throughout their marriage, they struggled a lot establishing their life together because one, he is not the brightest person around. They were both teenage parents trying to make ends meet. He has a short-temper at most times but he is a good and protective person. He just doesn't know how to deal and express his temper nor his feelings. He's not the romantic type because again, he's not so bright. I honestly do not doubt it if he has been physically abusive towards her. However, as years went by, they moved out of my parent's home and their lives improved because they both had a job and my younger sister lived with them as a babysitter. Their kids were happy. Their kids were growing and my nephew started school. Life seemed so good but of course, like all families, everyone struggles with bills and whatnot and honestly, that was all I heard from them when they complained about life.
Out of nowhere, I heard that she left my brother for some dude at her workplace. All I know is that maybe it was because he wasn't the romantic type and that the other dude treated her well. I'm heartbroken and disappointed. She was like a sister to me and out of all the sister-in-laws I had.. she was the most favorable one because my mother loved her and she loved her family and us. I saw that she really loved us. I felt so betrayed when I heard the news. I tried to hold back my tears as I was on the phone with my brother. How could she have done to us? Why?
Even if my brother wasn't romantic or he had issues, they could've still communicated and fixed their relationship. He loves her. He said to me, he told her that even if she made a mistake, he would be willing to forgive and accept her again. He said that she was going through a hard time dealing with her own mom in the hospital and her feelings for the other dude.
I thought about my nephew and niece. How they'll have to grow up like this... All of my other nieces and nephews already have to deal and grow up with divorced parents. I did not want these two sweet, innocent, adorable children having to deal with this situation. I only hope that she turns back around and comes back. ugh, it's such a hard time right now... I wish I could wake up from this nightmare.
Wednesday, February 25, 2015
Tuesday, February 24, 2015
Oh it's been a while.
Yes it has. I haven't been updating much because I forget that I have this blog and I'm just not usually in the writing mood. I will have to change that. So what is new with me?
In the beginning of the year, I started the sketch challenge but I only lasted to about 15 days. I really wanna continue it even though it's been a month since I have last sketched. I am bad with commitment, huh? It was just a way for me to feel creative again. I believe in the 15 days that I sketched, I saw improvement with my skill. So... I gotta keep it up.
School resumed. I have pretty decent classes but I'm at the point again where I am behind on my readings and I'm starting to slack. Gotta find that motivation!
For the summer, I wasn't planning on doing anything big but I found another study abroad opportunity and I am going to take it! I would be traveling to Taipei, Hong Kong, Macau, Shanghai, and Beijing with a business administration program where we would be visiting companies and doing cultural things. I am really excited so I've started to save up money, which is going okay. The only other thing I need to worry about is my GPA and see if they'll let me pass. Crossing my fingers! Ah, I really hope I get to go! If not, I wouldn't be that upset. I will just have to make up for it by planning a trip. Teehee!
I have been extremely moody and irritated with my boyfriend again. Ahhhhh. It's driving him and I nuts. I wish I wasn't feeling this way and being mean to him but whatever he does is just not satisfying me. I think I just need my own space away from him. Living in this studio apartment with him and seeing him 24/7 can feel quite suffocating.
The end of our lease is ending soon and hopefully, I have my next living situation all figured out. I just kinda went with it because, honestly, I'm kind of desperate for anything. I decided to room with this guy friend of mines and his other friends that I'm acquainted with. I realized... I'm the only girl. I've known this guy for a few years and this year, I've really gotten to know him a little more. The new place is right by campus so it's super convenient for us and the divided rent is less than $300. I anticipate that there will be several parties but oh well :\ They're a good bunch of guys and I just hope they know how to give people their own personal space. Overall, it's odd thinking of me rooming with them, haha. All is well.
Lastly, I've begun my first, actual ethnography study for a class. It has to be food-related so I've decided to do a research on the Hmong post-pregnancy diet. My fieldwork is around my friend's sister who I have known for a while now. This will be her second pregnancy. She'll actually be giving birth by the end of this week if all goes as expected. So far, we have been having conversations and interviews. I'm going on a whim here because it is my first experience so I have to take in all that I can learn. It's hard because I don't really know how to ask the right questions or formulate more questions... so there would be awkward moments. I really have to do more research on that. haha. Anyways, wish me luck.
In the beginning of the year, I started the sketch challenge but I only lasted to about 15 days. I really wanna continue it even though it's been a month since I have last sketched. I am bad with commitment, huh? It was just a way for me to feel creative again. I believe in the 15 days that I sketched, I saw improvement with my skill. So... I gotta keep it up.
School resumed. I have pretty decent classes but I'm at the point again where I am behind on my readings and I'm starting to slack. Gotta find that motivation!
For the summer, I wasn't planning on doing anything big but I found another study abroad opportunity and I am going to take it! I would be traveling to Taipei, Hong Kong, Macau, Shanghai, and Beijing with a business administration program where we would be visiting companies and doing cultural things. I am really excited so I've started to save up money, which is going okay. The only other thing I need to worry about is my GPA and see if they'll let me pass. Crossing my fingers! Ah, I really hope I get to go! If not, I wouldn't be that upset. I will just have to make up for it by planning a trip. Teehee!
I have been extremely moody and irritated with my boyfriend again. Ahhhhh. It's driving him and I nuts. I wish I wasn't feeling this way and being mean to him but whatever he does is just not satisfying me. I think I just need my own space away from him. Living in this studio apartment with him and seeing him 24/7 can feel quite suffocating.
The end of our lease is ending soon and hopefully, I have my next living situation all figured out. I just kinda went with it because, honestly, I'm kind of desperate for anything. I decided to room with this guy friend of mines and his other friends that I'm acquainted with. I realized... I'm the only girl. I've known this guy for a few years and this year, I've really gotten to know him a little more. The new place is right by campus so it's super convenient for us and the divided rent is less than $300. I anticipate that there will be several parties but oh well :\ They're a good bunch of guys and I just hope they know how to give people their own personal space. Overall, it's odd thinking of me rooming with them, haha. All is well.
Lastly, I've begun my first, actual ethnography study for a class. It has to be food-related so I've decided to do a research on the Hmong post-pregnancy diet. My fieldwork is around my friend's sister who I have known for a while now. This will be her second pregnancy. She'll actually be giving birth by the end of this week if all goes as expected. So far, we have been having conversations and interviews. I'm going on a whim here because it is my first experience so I have to take in all that I can learn. It's hard because I don't really know how to ask the right questions or formulate more questions... so there would be awkward moments. I really have to do more research on that. haha. Anyways, wish me luck.
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