Tonight I received unfortunate news about my family. My sister-in-law cheated on my brother. Together they have a 6 year old boy and a 3 year old daughter, both whom I love as if they were my children. They've been together for 9 years but married for about 7 years. They married as teenagers because he got her pregnant. My brother is the sibling before so him and I grew up together and he's the closest sibling I am with while growing up. I was their niam txais ntsuab for their wedding.
From my perspective, throughout their marriage, they struggled a lot establishing their life together because one, he is not the brightest person around. They were both teenage parents trying to make ends meet. He has a short-temper at most times but he is a good and protective person. He just doesn't know how to deal and express his temper nor his feelings. He's not the romantic type because again, he's not so bright. I honestly do not doubt it if he has been physically abusive towards her. However, as years went by, they moved out of my parent's home and their lives improved because they both had a job and my younger sister lived with them as a babysitter. Their kids were happy. Their kids were growing and my nephew started school. Life seemed so good but of course, like all families, everyone struggles with bills and whatnot and honestly, that was all I heard from them when they complained about life.
Out of nowhere, I heard that she left my brother for some dude at her workplace. All I know is that maybe it was because he wasn't the romantic type and that the other dude treated her well. I'm heartbroken and disappointed. She was like a sister to me and out of all the sister-in-laws I had.. she was the most favorable one because my mother loved her and she loved her family and us. I saw that she really loved us. I felt so betrayed when I heard the news. I tried to hold back my tears as I was on the phone with my brother. How could she have done to us? Why?
Even if my brother wasn't romantic or he had issues, they could've still communicated and fixed their relationship. He loves her. He said to me, he told her that even if she made a mistake, he would be willing to forgive and accept her again. He said that she was going through a hard time dealing with her own mom in the hospital and her feelings for the other dude.
I thought about my nephew and niece. How they'll have to grow up like this... All of my other nieces and nephews already have to deal and grow up with divorced parents. I did not want these two sweet, innocent, adorable children having to deal with this situation. I only hope that she turns back around and comes back. ugh, it's such a hard time right now... I wish I could wake up from this nightmare.
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